After years of experience representing families going through a divorce, our
Ventura divorce attorney has compiled a list of what not to do during your divorce. At the
Law Offices of Janet L. Mertes, we understand how emotionally turbulent this time can be for some people.
Most couples are processing a huge shift in their lives and it can leave
them vulnerable to making irrational mistakes they usually would never
make. Continue reading for a list of the top 5 things not to do during
1. Never Disregard Your Children’s Feelings
If you are emotionally distraught, confused and angry during this time
think of how you children must feel. Their family unit, the support system
they have grown up depending on, is falling apart and most children will
struggle to process this. Talking about the divorce will be hard, but
don’t disregard their feelings or try to sweep everything under
the rug. Doing so will lead to a better relationship with your children
in the long run.
2. Don’t Keep Your Children From Your Spouse
No matter how angry you may be at your spouse, never use custody of your
children as a weapon over your spouse. Remember, you may be divorcing
you spouse, but your children are not. Make sure to provide time for them
to spend with the other parent and never talk negatively about your spouse
in front of your children.
3. Don’t Lie To Your Attorney
The best way to end up with an unfavorable outcome in your divorce proceedings
is to lie to your attorney. Many people think they may be clever at hiding
their assets, but know that your spouse’s attorney will be searching
for any information that could possibly defame you or paint you in a negative
light. For example, if you have a rental property in Arizona that you
had prior to your marriage, make sure to disclose this information to
your Ventura divorce attorney. Failure to do so could mean the asset could
be brought up by your spouses’ attorney. They could present your
intentional concealment as evidence of poor character.
4. Don’t Post Nasty Things About Your Spouse on Social Media
This rule goes back to the above mention of defamation. While it may feel
cathartic to post rants and raves about all the negative events that occurred
during your marriage, we implore you to refrain. Any posts you make on
social media can and will be used against you.
5. Take Everyone’s Advice With a Grain of Salt
It’s only natural to want to seek out the counsel of trusted family
members, friends, and other divorcees during your divorce. We understand
the need to vent your problems to your friends, but remember to take every
piece of advice with a grain of salt. In our years of practicing family
law, our founding
Ventura divorce attorney, Janet L. Mertes has seen hundreds of divorce cases and not a single one
was the same. Remember only you and your spouse can make educated decisions
on your divorce terms.
Thinking of Divorce? Contact Janet L. Mertes Today
If you and your spouse are considering divorce, you should contact our
Ventura divorce attorney today. By hiring and attorney, you are provided with a neutral third-party
to help settle disputes and suggest compromises. Our compassionate divorce
attorney offers free case evaluations so you have nothing to lose in contacting here.
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